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The 16 Dreams of King Kawsala – Buddha Predictions

Copied from Dr Ko Ko Gyi ‘s blogs

The 16 Dreams of King Brahmadda  && Buddha Predicted the Brain Drain

Myanmar version here – 16 Dreams of King Kaw Tha La

Once upon a time there was a king called Kawsala who was ruling in Benares, in northern India. One night he had 16 frightening nightmare dreams. He awoke in the morning in a cold sweat, with his heart thumping loudly in his chest. The 16 dreams had scared him to death. He was sure they meant that something terrible was about to happen.

King Kawsala knelt down before the holy man and then sat next to him. He asked, “Your reverence, can you tell me the meanings of my 16 dreams?””Of course I can,” said the forest monk. “Tell them to me, beginning with the first eight.”

The king replied, ‘These were the first eight dreams:

roaring bulls with no fight, midget trees bearing fruit, cows sucking milk from calves, calves pulling carts with bulls trailing behind, a horse eating with two mouths, a jackal urinating in a golden bowl, a she-jackal eating a rope maker’s rope, one overflowing pot with all the rest empty.” 

‘Tell me more about your first dream,” said the monk.

“Your reverence, I saw four pure black bulls who came from the four directions to fight in the palace courtyard. People came from miles around to see the bulls fight. But they only pretended to fight, roared at each other, and went back where they came from.”

“Oh king,” said the holy man, “this dream tells of things that will not happen in your lifetime or in mine. In the far-off future, kings will be unwholesome and stingy. The people too will be unwholesome. Goodness will be decreasing while evil increases. The seasons will be out of whack, with sunstroke on winter days and snow storms on summer days. The skies will be dry, with poor clouds and little water. Harvests will be small and people will starve. Then dark clouds will come from the four directions, but even after much thunder and lightning, they will depart without letting rain fall – just like the roaring bulls who leave without fighting.

“But have no fear, there will be no harm to the people of today.

Now tell me your second dream.”

“Your reverence. I had a dream where tiny midget plants grew no more than one foot tall, and then flowered and gave fruit.”

“Oh king,” said the holy man, the soil will be poor for growing crops, and humans will live short lives. The young will have strong desires, and even young girls will have babies – just like midget trees bearing fruit.

“But this will not happen until the distant future when the world is declining. What was your third dream, oh king?”

“Your reverence. I saw cows sucking milk from their own calves. born the same day,” said the king, shuddering with fear.

“Be calm,” said the monk, “this too will not happen in our lifetimes. But someday people will no longer respect their mothers, fathers, mothers-in-law and fathers-in-law. People will give everything to their own children, taking over the savings of their elder parents and in-laws. Then, by whim alone, they may or may not feed and clothe their elders. So the elderly will be at the mercy of their own children – just like cows sucking milk from their day-old calves.

“But clearly it is not like that today, oh king, so you have nothing to fear. Now tell me your fourth dream.”

Somewhat relieved, the king continued, “Your reverence, I dreamed I saw big strong full-grown bulls following behind bullock carts. They were being pulled by frail awkward calves. The calves stopped and stood still, unable to pull the heavily loaded carts. Caravans could no longer travel and goods could not be taken to market.”

“There will be a time,” said the holy man, “when unwholesome stingy kings will no longer respect wise experienced judges. Instead they will appoint young foolish judges, granting them the highest privileges. But they will not be able to make difficult decisions. They will become judges in name only, doing no real work – just like the calves who can’t pull the carts. Meanwhile, the older wiser ones will offer no help, thinking it is no longer their concern – just like the bulls trailing behind.

“Again you have nothing to fear, oh king, from those far-off times when all the nations will be poorly run by the young and foolish.

What was your fifth dream?”

“Your reverence, my fifth dream was very strange indeed. I saw a horse eating with two mouths, one on each side of his head!” Again the king trembled as he spoke.

The forest monk said, “This will happen in another far-off future time, when unwholesome foolish kings appoint unwholesome greedy judges. Not caring in the least about right and wrong, they will take bribes from both sides in the same case – just like a horse eating greedily with two mouths.

“Now tell me your sixth dream.”

“Your reverence, I dreamed I saw a golden plate worth a hundred thousand pieces of money. People were holding it and coaxing an old skinny jackal to urinate in it. And that’s just what he did!” said the king, making a face.

“Oh king, this too will come to pass in a far-off time when the kings will be outsiders, not born in the ruling families of the countries they rule. So they will not trust the experienced ministers from the native noble class. They will replace them with low class ministers they can control more easily. Meanwhile the old nobles will depend on the new ruling class. So they will offer their high class daughters in marriage to the low class ministers – just like golden bowls urinated in by jackals.

“But this will not happen in your time, oh king. What was your seventh dream?” 

“Your reverence, I dreamed I saw a man making a rope and letting it pile up under his chair. There a hungry female jackal was eating the rope as it fell, without the man knowing it.”

“There will come a time,” said the monk, “when women’s cravings will increase. They will desire men, strong liquor, jewelry and all sorts of useless possessions. They will spend a lot of time window shopping. Paying more attention to their lovers than to their husbands. they will ignore even the most important household activities. And they will waste all the money earned by their husbands – just like the jackal devouring the rope that is produced by the rope maker.

“But as you can see, oh king, these times are not upon us. Tell me about your eighth dream.”

“Your reverence,” said the king, “I saw one big pot full of water, and many small empty pots, in front of the palace gate. All the warriors, priests, merchants and farmers were bringing water from all directions. But they were pouring it only into the big pot. That one was overflowing and wasting the water, while all the little pots remained empty!” Again the king shook in fear as he spoke.

“Have no fear, oh king,” said the holy man. “Way off in the future the world will be declining. The land will be less fertile, so crops will be harder to grow. The richest will have no more than 100,000 pieces of money – there will be no more millionaires! Even the kings will be poor and stingy.

“The kings and the wealthy will make all the rest work for them only. The poor will be forced to bring all their products, grains, vegetables and fruits to the warehouses of the rich and powerful. And the barns of the hard working poor will remain empty – it will be like the big pot filled to overflowing, with all the little ones empty.

“So now you know the meanings of your first eight dreams. They have foretold:

thunderclouds with no rain, young girls having babies, the elderly at the mercy of their children, young foolish judges with no help from the wise, greedy judges taking bribes from both sides, low class ministers with high class wives, wives wasting the earnings of their husbands, the rich taking from the poor leaving them nothing.

“So your mind may be at peace, oh king, regarding these first eight dreams. Clearly such times are not upon us, and these dangers are not to be feared in the present day.”

The Frightening Sound of ‘Munch, Munch, Munch’. (Chap. 3.)

“Indeed,” said King Kawsala to the humble forest monk, “you have set my mind to rest concerning my first eight dreams. But my last eight dreams are even more frightening. I must do something to prevent the doom they predict.” Again the king began shaking uncontrollably with fear and panic.

“Calm down,” said the holy man, “and tell me these dreams also, that I may relieve your distress.”

The king replied, ‘These were my last eight dreams, the ninth to the 16th: a pond that’s muddy in the middle and clear by the shore, rice cooking unevenly in a pot, fine sandalwood traded for spoiled buttermilk, empty pumpkins sinking in water, solid rocks floating on water. giant snakes gobbled up by tiny she-frogs, royal golden swans waiting on a bad village crow, the frightening sound of ‘munch, munch, munch’.” 

“Please tell me the details of your ninth dream,” said the monk.

“Your reverence, I dreamed I saw a pond which was deep in the middle and shallow by the shore. It was filled with all five kinds of lotuses, and there were all kinds of animals – two-footed and four-footed – drinking near the shore. And yet the water remained clear by the shore, and got muddy only in the middle. How could this be? What does this mean?”

“Oh king,” said the forest monk, “in the distant future there will be only unwholesome kings. They will rule based on their will power, along with their anger and fear. They will not care at all about wholesomeness and justice. They will be much more interested in becoming rich from all kinds of bribes, than in the well-being of the citizens. No longer will rulers have patience, loving-kindness and compassion towards the people they rule. Instead they will be rough and cruel, crushing the people to squeeze the last penny from them in taxes – just as the sweet juice is squeezed from sugar cane.

“Therefore the citizens, unable to pay the taxes and bribes, will flee to the borderlands. Soon there will be less people living in the corrupt central capitals, and the borderlands will be heavily populated by the humble

just like the pond that is muddy in the middle and clear by the shore.

“But obviously there is nothing in this for you to fear, oh good and wholesome king. What was your tenth dream?”

“Your reverence, I dreamed I saw rice cooking unevenly in a pot. Some was overcooked, some well-cooked. and some still raw.”

“Don’t worry about this either,” said the holy man. “This dream foretells a time when all will be unwholesome, not like today! Kings will be unwholesome, and so will officials and ministers, priests and homemakers, city and country folks. Amazing as it may seem, this dream indicates a time when holy men will be unwholesome too! In addition. even the gods, tree spirits and fairies will be unwholesome and wicked!

“The winds will change quickly, sometimes blowing too hard and sometimes not at all. These winds will shake the heavenly homes of the sky gods. Therefore, in some places rains will cause floods, it will rain just right in some areas, and there will be terrible droughts in other places. It will be like rice in the cooking pot – some overcooked, some well-cooked, and some raw.

“Now tell me your 11th dream, oh king.”

“Your reverence, I dreamed I saw the finest sandalwood, worth 100,000 pieces of money, being traded for spoiled buttermilk. What is the meaning of this?”

“This too indicates a far-off future time, when knowledge of Truth is disappearing. There will be many greedy shameless preachers who distort the Four Necessities: food, clothing, shelter and medicine. They will make these into luxuries, far richer than they really need.

“They will teach the worthlessness of luxuries and the unwholesomeness of greed, by preaching the Truth of nonattachment. But in return for preaching, they will require money and luxuries. So they will cause an increase in craving, rather than showing the way towards Liberation from craving. They will preach Truth only so they can obtain worthless things – just like priceless sandalwood traded for spoiled buttermilk.

“Now let me hear your 12th dream.”

“Your reverence, I saw, in a dream, empty pumpkins sinking to the bottom of the water.”

“Oh king, this foretells a distant future when the world will be upside down. So once again, you have nothing to fear in this life. Unwholesome kings will grant high positions to the low class rather than the high class. The low class will quickly become rich and the high class poor. In all departments and functions, the ignorant words of the uneducated low class officials will be greatly respected – just like empty pumpkins sinking to the depths of the water.

“Even among the religious, humble wholesome monks will lose respect, while the unwholesome teachings of shameless monks will be followed and adored -just like empty pumpkins sinking to the bottom.

‘What was your 13th dream?”

“Your reverence, I dreamed I saw solid rocks floating on top of the water. How strange this seems. What does it mean, wise one?”

‘This too indicates the future era when the world will be upside down. In all departments and functions, the wise words of the well-educated nobles will be ignored, due to their birth alone.

“Likewise among the religious, the words of Truth spoken by humble wholesome monks will be ignored

just like solid rocks floating away on the surface of the water.

“What was your 14th dream?”

“Your reverence, it was a frightening dream in which I saw tiny female frogs chasing big long black snakes. When they caught up to them they cut them and broke them in pieces like water lily stumps, and then gobbled them up!”

“There is nothing for you to fear in this dream either, oh king. This represents a future time when the world will be declining. The wholesomeness in people’s natures will decrease. Desires will increase in their minds until they are enslaved by their cravings. Because of this, men will be under the orders of their youngest prettiest wives. The servants, bulls, buffaloes and all other household wealth will be managed by the youngest wives – due to the uncontrolled desires of their husbands.

“These wives will treat their husbands like slaves. keeping them under their thumbs. If the men ask about family affairs, their wives will say, ‘There’s no need for you to ask. Everything in my home belongs to me, not you!’ It will be like big long snakes gobbled up by tiny she-frogs.

“Now tell me your 15th dream.”

“Your reverence, I saw a crow, the kind that lives near villages. I knew he was filled with the ‘Ten Bad Qualities’. He was being followed and served by golden swans. the kind seen as kings by other birds.”

“This too indicates a distant time when all kings will be weaklings. They will be no good at riding elephants or horses, or fighting battles. So you can easily see there is nothing for you to fear, mighty king.

“Those weakling kings will be so afraid of being overthrown that they will be afraid to give powerful positions to worthy well-educated nobles. Instead they will appoint foot servants, bath attendants, barbers and so forth. And the nobles will have to become the lowest servants of the untrained new officials – just like royal golden swans waiting on a bad village crow.

“At last we have reached your 16th dream, oh king. Describe it to me.?’

“Your reverence, I will tell you my last dream, the only one that still frightens me. Ordinarily, leopards chase and eat goats. But in my 16th dream, I saw goats chasing leopards! And when they caught them they ate them up, making the sound, ‘munch, munch, munch!’ All the other animals who heard this frightening sound and saw the meat-eating goats approaching, ran and hid in the forest. The memory of this dream still frightens me, holy one.”

“Alas, even this dream applies only to the far-off time when the world will be ruled by unwholesome kings.

The lowly, who are unaccustomed to power, will become closest to the kings. They will gain power while the nobles become poor and unknown.

“In the law courts, the newcomers will confiscate the inherited wealth from the nobles – all their lands, homes and possessions. And when the nobles go to the courts to protest, they will be told, ‘How dare you argue with us! You do not understand the situation you are in. We will tell the king and have your hands and feet cut off!’ The nobles will run away and hide in fear.

‘likewise, bad monks will injure good monks as much as they please. With no one to support and defend them, the good monks will leave the cities and villages. They will live in the jungle in fear of the bad monks. It will be like all those who hear the sound of ‘munch. munch, munch’, and live in fear of meat-eating goats.

“Oh king, now you know the meanings of all 16 dreams. The last eight have foretold:

overtaxed people fleeing to the borderlands, an unwholesome world with uneven rains, Truth being taught by preachers greedy for money, ignorant and unwholesome words gaining respect, wise words and Truth losing respect, husbands enslaved by desires for their youngest wives, educated nobles in the service of untrained newcomers, noble and good living in fear of powerful and bad.”

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Spiritual Journey (Mileage 33 years old), Arrival of Zelda and A Journey to the Conscious Parenthood , PART I

Category : Spirituality

I haven’t updated about this spiritual series for 2 years, and I do have a lot to say, and seems like every year has its special moment, but none will catch up this 2014 ever. Yes, my baby girl has arrived beautifully.
Without further ado (time is really limited right now, being a father with a whole lot more to do), I would like to open this read with Preface by Dalai Lama from the book “The Conscious Parent”.
“Although I am 75 years old, I still remember my mother’s spontaneous love and unselfish affection. Thinking about it today still gives me a sense of peace and inner calm. In our modern world one of the challenges we face is how to retain an appreciation of that kind of unselfish giving throughout our lives. When we grow up, our misguided intelligence tends to make us short-sighted, giving rise to fear, aggression, jealously, anger and frustration, which diminish our potential.”
I quoted Misguided Intelligence, how can intelligence can be misguided, how can human knowledge, experience can be misguided in this advanced modern age.
Here is the definition of intelligence from Wikipedia, Intelligence has been defined in many different ways such as in terms of one’s capacity for logic, abstract thought, understanding, self-awareness, communication, learning, emotional knowledge, memory, planning, creativity and problem solving. It can also be more generally described as the ability to perceive and/or retain knowledge or information and apply it to itself or other instances of knowledge or information creating referable understanding models of any size, density, or complexity, due to any conscious or subconscious imposed will or instruction to do so.
Human, each of us has our own level of intelligence with relate to our life experience, information created around us based on how our conscious or subconscious reflect or imposed to those surroundings.But, let me pause here and think about it, who in the world firstly show or teach us how to accumulate intelligence during our life time, in other words, how to perceive, react things around us.
Just a little bit more, who will be Parents?
I just heard the final lines from the poem of William Wordsword, My Heart Leaps UpA rainbow in the sky.
So was it when my life began;
So is it now I am a man;
So be it when I grow old,Or let me die!
The Child is father of the Man;

And I could wish my days to be
Bound each to each by natural piety.
My point is that each of us are destined to be a Better Parent and it is a very good chance that life gives us to become Children first and then be a Parent. Imagine life with, be a Parent first and then children later, it would be nightmare, I suppose.
So, here we go, almost reaching to my point, how do we be a better parent than our parents based on our childhood  or based on our considerable amount of accumulated intelligence during our life time (for me is 33 years of intelligence).
But let me put terms and conditions first, before I further drifted to what I want to reach. When I say Better Parent, does not mean, my parents or our parents are at worst in disgrace.
NO, Not at all, I am not who I am without my parents, I will not be who I am today without my parents guidance. I am just saying that, as of now of who I am because of my parent, how I can make use of my childhood experience to become more efficient, more conscious and more meaningful to my kids. Period.And, one more thing, do not jump to conclusion that you will never be parent since you planned to be Single and stop reading, No, huh, No freaking way. One way or the other you will portray as Parent to others (consciously or unconsciously) because you have come through childhood experience which is already build up or to be Parent one way or the other. That is why we all have our thoughts about if I were a parent, I won’t do like this, like that, etc., especially during our teenage years. So be aware Single. (I like the tone of it)
So talking about Better Parent, we need first to know ourselves, because in order to reach to higher degree of superlatives, you need know basic degree of superlatives, your parent and yourself. Since most of us (including myself), have a view of our parent parenting from receiving end, as a child perspective, it is honest to say that we need to know ourselves first and foremost. And I dare to say one more step, we need to connect with ourselves first. Because in order to connect with your children, you need to connect with yourself first.
By saying connection, do you know the spiritual reason we birth our children?
to be continued in PART II

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Buddhism 101

Category : Spirituality

(1) Samasara

The cycle of life and death

(2) Karma

Action or work 

Seed in the mind come to fruition either in this life or subsequent rebirth

(3) Rebirth

The Continuation of a dynamic , ever changing process of “dependent arising ” determined by the laws of cause and effect rather than that of one being, transmigrating or incarnating from one  existence to the next

(4) Four Nobel Truth 

the truth of dukkha 

the truth of origin of dukkha

the truth of the cessation of dukkha

the truth of the path leading to the cessation of dukkha

(5) Nobel Eight Fold Path

Right View

Viewing Reality as it Is, not just as appear to be

Right Intention

Intention of renunciation, freedom and harmlessness

Right speech

speaking in a truthful and non-hurtful way

Right action

Acting in a non-hurtful way

Right Livelihood

A non-harmful livelihood

Right effort

Making an effort to improve

Right mindfulness

Awareness to see things for what they are with the Consciousness; being aware of the present reality within oneself without any craving or aversion

Right Concentration

Correct meditation or concentration

(6) Middle Way

the practice of non-extremism ; A path of moderation away from the extreme of self-indulgence and self-mortification; Another term for Emptiness

(7) Nature of Existence

There are three masks of Existence, impermance, suffering and not-self 

Impermance (anicca) 

All things and experiences are inconstant, unsteady, and impermanent. Since nothing lasts, there is no inherentor fixed nature to any object or experience 

Because things are impermanent attachment to them is futile and leads to suffering

Suffering (dukkha)

Although the term is often translated as “suffering” its philosophical meaning is more “disquietude” as in condition of being disturbed. As such, suffering is too narrow a translation with negative emotional connotations that can give the impression that Buddhism is pessimistic, but Buddhism seeks to be neither pessimistic nor optimistic but realistic.


No phenomenon is really “I” or “mine”; Her concepts are in fact constructed by mind. Buddha reject both metaphysics assertions “I have self” and “I have no self”.

(8) Emptiness

the most conflict interpretation ever

three main characteristics; no-self , no-conception and spaciousness.

Example with three elements, In every situation, there will always be 3 elements

(1) You, yourself and your views  or thoughts

(2) another person, and his or her views or thoughts

(3) the entire event itself

In the event of boss yelling at you;

“No-self” means that your boss doesn’t have any self-nature, no nature of his own; no nature coming from his own side, no nature that he was born with of being a screaming unpleasant person. If he did have any nature like this his wife would find him unpleasant but she doesn’t. So “no-self” means that whatever you see in him is coming from you not form him. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t exist somehow or that it would somehow be useful to pretend he’s not quite there.

the “No-Conception” part mean that you stop thinking about him the wrong way; stop conceiving

of him as being something that is bad from his own side and start thinking him as an empty screen; one that is filled with a hit movie for his wife and one that is a horror movie for you. And the projector is of course your own mind driven  by the electricity called “imprints from what you have done same thing to others in the past. ” Again the point is not at all that it would be any help not to think anything, not to judge anything as being good or bad, not to attach to any of your feeling or emotion; Remember the entire event and how you see yourself and

others, how your boss see to you and others ( three elements) is certainly real. Real people will get hurt, real company will suffer, real boss will blow your next holiday bonus, But not for the reason you used to think caused them. It is all coming from things you did before.

You will be spacious if you follow above two. when you are spacious instead of fear or goad at those moments, you have gratitude. You appreciate the given moment without needing to hold or control indefinitely. You relate to these moments with trust

instead of fear, with openness instead of greed, with letting go instead of holding.

(9) Three Jewels

the Buddha

the Dharma

the Sangha

(10) Buddhist ethics

1. To refrain from taking life

2. To refrain from taking that is not given

3. To refrain from sensual or sexual misconduct

4. To refrain from lying

5. To refrain from intoxicants 

6. To refrain from eating at the wrong time

7. To refrain from dancing, playing music, wearing jewlery, attending shows and performance

8. To refrain from the use of garlands, perfumes, ointments and from things that tend to beautify and adorn

9. To refrain from using high or luxurious seats or bedding

10. To refrain from accepting gold and silver and money

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Spiritual Journey (Mileage 31 years old)

Category : Spirituality

During these years, i have been struggling with the concept “Letting Go”. And i slowly came to realize , hopefully this time it’s true, that Letting Go has a sea of meanings especially with our Buddhism, of course, what am i thinking !?..

Here are a few words which are interconnected with the word “Letting Go”.


Let’s jump to a real life example to see how interrelated those words are.

Following is the excerpt from Diamond Cutter By Geshe Michael ; Mcnally, Lama Christie  since i am no where near to them explaining about Letting Go

The author is working as VP in a large diamond business company. While he is on oversea , somewhere deep inside of India mountains and forests where the first generation of telephone is still in used by only at nearby village, his boss asked him to order ten thousand carats of diamonds within ten days. Conversation goes like this.
“We need stones! Got a huge order! Gotta have ten thousand carats in New York within ten days! Talk to Bombay! Talk to Antwerp! Get it going!”

Now ten thousand carats of these particular stones would mean maybe a million little diamonds; and for every one you actually buy on the market you might have to look at two or three. So you’re talking checking a few million diamonds in ten days. Suppose it takes you ten seconds to pick up one stone and look at it with your magnifying glass. This means 6 stones a minute, and 360 stones an hour, per person. Suppose you can keep this up for five hours a day without frying your eyes out completely—you’re talking maybe two thousand stones a day, max. So you’re going to have to get at least a thousand man days out of your crew just to get close to finishing the order. So I ask again:

“Ten thousand carats, right, Ofer? You’re sure—ten thousand?”

“Yes yes, right away; get on it tonight! Keep calling, wake everybody up around the world, it doesn’t matter! Good luck!” Click.

I make a note in my diary about the quantity and the type of stone that’s needed, and then proceed to spend several hours trying to reach all the international buyers around the world. By the time I leave the phone exchange on Madakeri it’s almost dark; we walk out to a little garden overlooking a huge beautiful valley, enjoy the evening air and the smell of the wild Indian flowers, and watch the stars come out. I feel good, the good feeling of keeping a promise to do something even when it’s a tremendous pain to do so. Then we pile into the rickety old monastery car and head back, for another week or so of intense studies with some of the greatest Lamas in the world.

About the time the diamonds pour into the New York headquarters from all over the world, I’m arriving too, dusty and sun burnt. Ofer calls me up to his office, and I saunter in with the self-confidence of an executive who’s delivered the goods, despite the odds. I sit and wait for the congratulations to begin.

“What in the world is going on?” he starts.

“What do you mean?”

“What’s with all the diamonds? Do you know what you’re doing to the cash flow? What are you, crazy?”

You know the feeling. The sinking feeling. It’s not just another miscommunication or business mistake—it’s a whole statement on the condition of the world, our world. Why is it that things can’t go right? I think you’re getting an idea by now. But let’s go on.

“Wait a minute, Ofer. You told me to buy them—you told me you needed ten thousand carats as soon as possible.”

“Ten thousand carats! Are you kidding! I told you a thousand! What are you talking about? Why in the world would I order ten thousand carats!”

“But you did tell me to buy ten thousand. I remember, I asked you two or three times. I even made a note in my diary right there, while you were on the phone. Look, it’s right here—it says ten thousand.”

“How do I know when you wrote that? It could have been this morning! I never said ten thousand. Who would say ten thousand?”

Let’s connect those words , i have listed above to this real-life situation. We’ll use the “three elements” that the Buddha mentioned.The “three elements” refer to three parts of the situation going on at this moment: the yelling boss (Ofer); the VP getting yelled at (me, unfortunately); and the fact that the whole event is taking place at all. Each one has its own emptiness, or  “potential.” In fact, there’s a whole pile of emptinesses in this situation that are contributing to the mess, and which will contribute as well to the fix, which is why emptiness (the “potential”) of things is so wonderful.

What’s the potential in the boss? He seems pretty ugly at the moment, but remember that if his partner walked in—that is, his wife Aya—she’d say that he looks wonderful right now, saving the company from an irresponsible dumb head who’s gone wild buying diamonds we don’t need and can’t pay for. So he’s not a monster or a genius from his own side, it just depends on who’s looking; he’s just blank or empty on his part, and whether he seems good or bad at the moment depends purely on what kind of imprints I’ve put in my mind from the past.

Remember too the other thing we always mention at this point: That, although it’s true that how he looks right now is something that’s being conditioned and even created by my own mind, this doesn’t at all imply that I can just wish him into a nice guy in the moment. And this is because I (unlike his wife) have imprints in my mind that are forcing me to see him as a very upset boss right now. The best I can do then is to be very careful not to plant any new imprints in my mind right now.

What kind of new imprints are we talking about? Well, how about an imprint to see a boss yelling at you for doing exactly what he told you to do? And how would a person get an imprint like this? Actually there’s only one way to get this kind of imprint—and that would be to yell at someone like your boss, who’s trying to address what he honestly believes is a serious and costly mistake. So what would be the stupidest thing to do at this moment, when you’re getting yelled at? You’ve got it: yelling back.

If you let your mind go through this process, or even a significant chunk of this process, during the three seconds before frustration and anger sweep you downstream, a couple of things happen. First of all, you avoid a mental imprint that would give you a lot of trouble later. Imagine going to pick up a coffee on the edge of your desk and accidentally grabbing a cup of hydrochloric acid instead (something that could really happen in a jewelry factory if you were careless enough). You’re having an animated conversation with someone so you don’t notice; you raise the cup to your face; you start to tip it; and then at the last minute you catch a tiny whiff of the acid and set the cup down pronto, with a sigh of relief. The accomplishment of stopping your frustration and anger at the last minute—the victory of responding to your mind during the three-second window of opportunity and heading off your anger, and the time bomb imprint it’s about to burn into your mind—is no less a relief.

Remember, a single moment of anger, a single moment of burning this kind of negative imprint into your mind, can lead to days or weeks or even longer periods in the future when you have to experience the result of this imprint in the world around you.  You have just saved yourself from loads of trouble and pain; you have just taken a different road, and you will never have the accident you were going to have if you hadn’t made that turn just now.

So what about the “no-self,” and the “no conceptions”? Now that we’ve gone over an actual incident, these are easy. “No-self” means that your boss doesn’t have any self-nature—no nature of his own, no nature coming from his own side, no nature that he was born with—of being a screaming unpleasant person, even at this moment. If he did have any nature like this, then even his wife would find him unpleasant right then—but she doesn’t. So “no-self” means that whatever you see in him is coming from you, not from him. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t exist somehow, or that it would somehow be useful to pretend he’s not quite there.

The “no conceptions” part means that you stop thinking about him the wrong way: Stop conceiving of him as being something that is bad from his own side, and start thinking of him as an empty screen, one that is filled with a hit movie for his wife, and one that’s a horror movie for you right then. And the projector is, of course, your own mind, driven by the electricity called “imprints from what you’ve done to others in the past.” Again, the point is not at all that it would be of any help not to think anything, not to judge anything as being good or bad, not to attach to any of your feelings or emotions. Remember: the entire event, and how you seem to yourself and others, and how your boss seems to you and others (these being the three elements), is certainly real. Real people will get hurt, real companies will suffer damage, real VP’s will blow their next holiday bonus, but not for the reason you used to think caused them. It’s all coming from things you did before.

So what’s there to do now? It’s one thing to understand clearly that—if you respond negatively at the end of the three seconds—you are going to plant some new negative imprints of the same flavor and have to eat them again later on. Let’s talk now about the immediate consequences of negativity: Let’s face it, getting mad just doesn’t help anything at all.

There’s a famous verse from an ancient Indian Buddhist book that says,

If a situation can be fixed,

Why get upset about it?

If a situation cannot be fixed,

What’s the use of getting upset?

We’re talking here about the immediate benefit of refusing to give into anger. The main challenge has passed: You refuse to respond negatively, and thereby protect yourself from the same thing happening again in the future. Now go into your mind and refuse even an inkling of anger; in fact, go further, and wrestle your mind into a positive attitude. Instead of arguing about whose fault it was that the diamonds were bought, instead of fighting about who it was that messed up the cash flow, turn your mind immediately to the solution of the present moment. Here is perhaps the most important point of the whole exercise in this context: You’ll find that, because you fought the anger off even before it got fully into your mind, you’re able immediately to turn all your energy to solving the problem. Your mind is clear. Your face is calm. Your heart is beating normally, your breath is steady.

This is how you want to be when you deal with a serious problem, and this is absolutely the best thing for your body and your long-term health. Every time you refuse another few moments of anger or any other negative emotion, you are tacking onto your life and your business career several more hours of health and happiness, because it all adds up at the end. And for your immediate business it’s just a lot more intelligent to attack your problems with a completely clear and calm state of mind.

A final note of advice. The whole approach presented in this book is very similar to gardening. Our premise is that problems are created by seeds or imprints you have planted in your mind in the past. Once these imprints have reached a certain level of power, once they are going off or about to go off and grow into a plant, it’s essentially too late to do much about them. Conversely, it’s naive to think that you can plant a seed in the morning and expect much of a result by the evening.

The point is that you should train yourself, in advance, to view the immediate results of your actions with a grain of salt. You may be able to calm your own mind immediately and be ready to deal with a problem with cool rationality, but this doesn’t at all mean that everyone else in the room will calm down. Nor does it mean that the solution you come up with in your cooled-down state of mind is necessarily going to work: Don’t forget that this depends upon seeds planted long ago. It does mean though that you are gardening for your future—it does mean that fewer and fewer tense situations will be happening in your world to come.

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So what the heck does it relate to “Letting Go”?

In this above example, you are supposed to let go of all things that you are thinking, seeing, believing since day one and only get hold of the truth at the moment (three elements), in other words, emptiness.

Quite deep, isn’t it. Letting go of all the things you are believing and getting hold of emptiness. What do you left with?

Do you know another characteristics of emptiness apart from being empty? Spaciousness !

Without spaciousness, good turns to bad very quickly. Nothing satisfies. Everything is a problem, and no amount of money, fame, or outward success is ever enough.

When we are spacious with the good, however, instead of fear or greed at those above mentioned moments, we have gratitude. We appreciate a given moment without needing to control or hold it indefinitely. We relate to these moments with trust instead of fear, with openness instead of greed, with letting go instead of holding. We see that the best way to have something is often to let it go. As such, we become a place where the creative visits more often and stays longer when it does.

References: Wisdom 2.0 , Diamond Cutter.